Proverbs 25:15-17 (ESV)
15 With patience a ruler may be persuaded,
and a soft tongue will break a bone.
16 If you have found honey, eat only enough for you,
lest you have your fill of it and vomit it.
17 Let your foot be seldom in your neighbor’s house,
lest he have his fill of you and hate you.
The gentle person brings wisdom to others, helping them to see things from God’s perspective rather than their own. In contrast to hard bones which frame the body, the soft tongue or carefully chosen words are able to shatter the most resistant opponent. Honey is sweet and beneficial, but like all good things, must be enjoyed in moderation. In the same way, we must employ reasonableness in relationships. Though friendship is a blessing, we all need personal space. Don’t overstay your welcome. When you want to get your point across, do you raise your voice? Or do you remain composed, yet state things in a mean and hurtful way? Neither method is as effective as speaking the truth with gentleness and respect. Don’t interfere with God’s work by jumping between the Lord and the person you are advising. Move out of the way, giving others opportunity to hear from the Spirit, rather than just you.